My Personal List of 21 Life Tips

I just turned 21 this week and to someone who is very much into birthdays; this one was a huge one. Not because I am now able to enjoy a nice cold beer when I want but because I now have the option to do everything(except rent a car). There are a few things that I’ve come to find and now I understand what Kylie Jenner meant when she said she was finally realizing stuff. We all have these side notes in the back of our heads that we go back to everyday whether we realize it or not. Here is a list filled with 21 things that I have found helpful in my 21 years of living:

  1. Make sure you are dividing your checks and saving money. Just like I always say to myself, “your future self will appreciate it“.
  2. Keep a pen in your purse, car, backpack, etc. with you at all times. I’ve needed a pen so many times, and keeping one in my purse has kept me from waiting to barrow one (I am sort of an impatient person, so this helps).
  3. Pick your battles. I’ve come to understand this phrase pretty well ( whether I actually pick the right battles or not are debatable but lets be honest – not everyone picks the right battles but it is important that you learn to get better at picking what battles are worth it). There is just some things not worth the effort or drama so keep your 2 cents out of it.
  4. Have a group of people around that are helping you grow as a person. People who challenge you in a positive way are the ones that will also help you develop more as an individual.
  5. Always make time to better yourself. Whether it is reading a new book, watching an educational documentary, going on a hike, eating healthier, going out and getting fit, getting more hours of sleep.  There are loads more ways to better yourself but no matter what it is, make sure your doing something for yourself.
  6. Plan a getaway every once in a while. It doesn’t matter if it’s an hour away trip or across the country just try to make sure you give yourself time to explore the world around you.
  7. Invest in your hobbies. Hobbies are great to have, they distract in the best way possible. The way that I see it: hobbies are like a breath of fresh air.
  8. Do what makes you happy. No matter what anyone tells you, no matter how hard someone tries to push you down, make sure your happiness comes first. But also keep in mind to not hurt you and others close to you in the process (yes, it is possible to be happy without hurting anyone).
  9. Disconnect yourself for one hour or thirty minutes a day. Disconnect yourself from all social media apps and/or pretty much anything that has to do with technology. I believe we – or maybe it’s just me – are too wound up on our phones. Just take a part out of your day  to step away from your phone for a little while.
  10. Don’t be afraid to meet new people. It’s always nerve wrecking to just strike up a conversation but it is totally worth it. I’ve actually met a few great people that have now become my friends because I simply started a conversation.
  11. Share your interest with others. When you share your interests with others there is a slight chance that they might have the same interests as you, thus causing a great conversation.
  12. Be open minded. This is the best way to enhance your thinking and understand topics in different stand point.
  13. If you’re going to invest into a materialistic thing, do your research. If I am really keen on an item, I do my research on that item and think about it before I buy. This might sound really nerdy but it is what I do. For example, I wanted to buy a camera for the longest time and I finally did in December of 2015. The process of finding the right one was long. I wanted a great quality camera that fitted my needs and I was determined to save if I needed to. What I then did was look into multiple cameras(specifically Canon) , look at reviews, asked people that have knowledge about camera questions, asked one of the employees what they heard about the product, looked at YouTube videos, then asked myself if the camera fit all my personal requirements. This might sound intense for some of you but that is just how I am when it comes to buying certain things – now I have a camera that I absolutely love because it takes great pictures and I can take it to concerts with me!
  14. Always get a cart when shopping at Target. Do not try to fool yourself by saying “I’m only going to buy one thing” because let’s face it – you’re not. I’ve made the mistake of not getting a cart or a basket and had to struggle with holding 6 items in my arms.
  15. Do not get involved in social media conflicts. The outcome of Twitter fights or Facebook beef is hardly ever a positive. The truth about social media arguments is that people will say the first thing that pops up in their head without thinking clear throughout responses. And honestly, most of the beef that I’ve seen comes from anger or “what I say goes and screw what you think” type of attitude. So bottom line: Do not start any beef online.
  16. Do not be afraid to ask questions. If your curious about something, ask questions and don’t be afraid that the question might seem rhetorical to you despite the lack of understanding. It doesn’t hurt to broaden your mind.
  17. You can never have enough socks. I say you can never have enough because items like socks will magically disappear and never be seen again. I can start the month off with 10 new pairs and 4 will more than likely go missing. It’s sad, but it is a likely thing to happen.
  18. Remember that you are only human. We, as human beings, make mistakes and that is okay. Just be sure you learn from the mistakes. Another thing we will do is be hard on ourselves because we take on loads of pressure to try to fix everything. Just remember to “Control what you can, confront what you can’t“(The Maine).
  19. You create your own destiny. There is this quote that I think is crucial given any circumstance that you have been in, “Even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there“(Perks of Being A Wallflower). You don’t choose where you come from but you have a 100 percent choice where you end up; don’t let other people let you think otherwise.
  20. Stay clear of toxicity. Doesn’t matter if it is a person or an object, make sure you stay clear of things that put you down.
  21. You come first. I don’t mean this in a selfish way, if anything I say this because I know many people, including myself, that have put others before them when it was entirely okay to put themselves before anyone. Now, I will not give examples or a in depth explanation as to what I mean. This is up to you – as the readers – to think about what this statement truly means. We all have our own perceptions of everything and now that I’ve come to where I am now, I know that we have to make judgments on what things mean ourselves and “realize stuff” on our own(sometimes with the help of others of course).

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